The Mom Machine

Growing up in a large family, our house was pretty much chaos 24/7. I think my mom liked it that way. If the house was too quiet she seemed uncomfortable. She slept with the television on just for background noise…come to think of it, the television was ALWAYS on, not because anyone was watching it but because Mom liked the noise.

My mom did a lot for our family. She kept the crazy together if you know what I mean. Dad worked a ridiculous number of hours each week to provide for all of us and Mom kept the house running. It’s just how our family worked. Now that I am the mom and have a large family, I am beginning to see just how hard it must have been for my mom to do everything she did on a daily basis. I am just now beginning to truly appreciate the sacrifices she made for all of us.

Lately, life has just seemed super overwhelming. And as I was talking about in my video, (you did watch the video before you started reading, right?) when life gets overwhelming for the family Mom usually ends up being the punching bag. We listen to everyone gripe and complain. We go above and beyond while it seems like everyone else is just doing the bare minimum to get by. We are usually the first ones up in the morning and the last ones to bed at night…and the ones who get up with the dog in the middle of the night as well. We do it all…we are sort of “Mom Machines”. But when it comes down to it, like I told my daughter this morning after she yelled at me because she couldn’t find her jeans, we are human beings with feelings like everyone else. We aren’t, in fact, punching bags or machines. We are moms who love what we do for our families, but sometimes we get tired.

Driving home from dropping my kids off at school this morning, I was thinking about how terribly the day had started. Everyone was yelling at everyone else, griping and complaining, running around trying to get chores done and teeth brushed, lunches made and cats fed…there’s got to be an easier way, right? Do we absolutely HAVE to be caught up in the chaos or is there another path to choose? I was thinking about how my heart was just broken to pieces when my daughter yelled at me out of frustration. I know she was tired and just lashing out, but it still hurt. Couldn’t she see and appreciate all I had been doing for her to support her with her crazy musical schedule and demands? The truth is no, she couldn’t. Not in that moment. In that moment, she needed her jeans and they weren’t there. It had nothing to do with me, really. It had everything to do with her being tired and frustrated…I was just the lucky winner of the outburst that came with it.

It reminded me of that scene in the movie “Fireproof” where the dad and the husband are out in the woods talking. (I reference this scene quite a bit…it’s a great metaphor for life!) The husband is going on and on about how he feels his wife treats him disrespectfully and doesn’t appreciate him. I don’t want to ruin it, so take a moment and watch it HERE.

You see what I mean? Moments like these can help us to better understand how we treat Jesus every single day. It doesn’t feel good, does it? I’m sure He doesn’t like it either. That thought was incredibly humbling for me this morning. Sometimes it helps to take ourselves out of the equation and look for the lesson in the situation. Everything happens for a reason…sometimes there’s a bigger take-away and sometimes not, but you’ll never know unless you do a little digging. As moms, like Jesus, we are called to show love for our families over and over and over again…even when we feel like we aren’t appreciated. Being a mom is bigger than us. It’s a calling…and it’s not easy.

So for all of you moms out there who are with me right now, who feel like you can’t possibly change one more diaper, clean up one more spill, write one more check for one more school activity, do one more dish or fold one more load of laundry…take comfort in knowing you’re not alone. We are all in this together, ladies. I have to believe that there will come a day when we will look back at all of this and know that, while it was difficult at the time, we wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Take some time today just for you. Read a book, watch a chick flick, get in an extra workout…whatever it is for you that makes you feel just a little bit spoiled. You deserve it! Keep your chins up and spirits high and know that as a mom you are doing God’s work…and God is good all the time.

4 thoughts on “The Mom Machine

  1. Becki

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart this morning. I feel the crazy Mom thing right now. I’m praying for and with you this morning and throughout today. One moment at a time. God’s holding you. Sending a hug to you right now as I’m making a cup of coffee. You’re so inspiring and real. Thank you.

    1. Teresa Warner Post author

      Thanks so much Becki! Oh my goodness, does it feel good to know that I’m not the only one in this boat! Sometimes being a mom can feel so isolating! I thought it was bad when my kiddos were little, but now that they are older (and I guess I am too) it seems to be worsening. I will be praying for you too, sweet friend!

  2. Jennifer

    This was exactly what I needed today. It has been one of those weeks around here too . One daughter’s melt down was last night over mascara -that she is too young to wear. The others was tonight over other kids saying mean and hurtful things. It is hard not to react and to step back and say this is truly not about me. So thank you for reminding me we are in this together. You are the best girl! I love to hear your insight!

    1. Teresa Warner Post author

      My goodness, I need to get in here and check my comments more often! I’m so sorry your girls are dealing with “the hard stuff”. Ugh, that is tough for sure! The good thing is that we moms know it always gets better, that mascara does become appropriate at some stage of the game and that God is good and Karma will have its way…eventually. Love you, sweet friend! Hug those babies for me!

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