I’ve spent the past few days in the 103 degree heat doing yard work at our “vacation” home. We don’t really have a vacation home…that was a joke. Regardless, spending this much time in the heat first makes me regret living in the South but also makes me grateful for the time to reflect on things in my life. I’d much rather be reflecting on a beach, but God rarely offers me those opportunities so I take what I can get. Anywho, I spent the past few days thinking about a particularly difficult situation I found myself in recently. I’ll spare you the details because really, they’re not important. But what I did find that was important was that when all was said and done at the end of the day if everyone involved just focused on the true meaning of love all of the problems and difficulties they’ve been dealing with would just dry up and blow away like the ash settling on my vehicle from the wild fires. So today I’d like to talk about love. This will not be my last post on the topic, nor will it be the answer to everything. What I am hoping for is that it will provide a little insight and maybe some clarity to those who may need it…as well as a few giggles along the way.
There a a hundred gazillion definitions for the word love, which is the most commonly used word in the English language. I know this because my son shared this little-known fact with me so it must be true because he’s almost a teenager and they know everything. (wink, wink) Sara Evans sings, “Sometimes loving me just means leaving me alone.” For me, this definition is perfect. I am an extremely emotional person and if I’m put in a difficult situation I will say things without thinking…I will speak from emotion rather than from rational thought. This has gotten me into trouble on more than one occasion, therefore I prefer to be left alone. Being alone allows me time…time to think, time to sort out my emotions, time to let the anger or hurt subside, and time to let forgiveness take root and start to grow. Time heals all wounds. I truly believe that. I think Sara Evans hit the nail on the head with this one. And I love her song Alone. It speaks volumes to me.
The next definition of love I’d like to talk about comes from yet another musical group. Can you guess which one? If you said Justin Beiber you either have horrible taste in music or are way too young to be reading my blog. If you said The Beatles then you are correct! (and are DEFINATELY old enough to be reading my blog!) The Beatles said “All You Need is Love” and that “Money Can’t Buy You Love”. I believe they were correct on both counts. All things good and right come from love. Taking a meal to a friend in need comes from love, lending an ear to a friend who is going through a difficult time comes from love, home baked cookies as an afternoon snack comes from love. It doesn’t have to be something huge or expensive, something as simple as offering up a prayer sends love and good Karma. Take some good Karma and toss in a few Beatles tunes and you can’t go wrong, right? But sometimes what makes this part so hard for us is the fact that there are times when doing the most “loving” thing for another person is not exactly what we WANT to do. Sometimes when we’re having a disagreement with another person the best thing we can do is let it go and walk away. Easier said than done, I know. There is this saying that I have always liked…don’t hate me but I think it’s from Dr. Phil…he said on his show one day “Would you rather be right or happy?” Think about it. When you’re arguing with someone you love is it more important to you at that moment to be “right” or to simply agree to disagree on that particular topic and walk away happy? Respect is another form of love. If we can learn to respect eachother’s differences in opinion (and sometimes life choices) and just truly, unconditionally, purely LOVE one another..well my friends, that is where we will find happiness. Don’t you agree? Love, people. It’s truly all we really need. Moving on…
The last definition of love is probably the most famous…although yeah, the Beatles were kinda sorta famous too…but THIS definition comes from a place much more profound than Abby Road. I Corinthians 13: 4-13 to be exact. Yes, this definition comes from The Bible. It states that “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.13So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” Beautiful, isn’t it? Perfect and yet one of the most difficult things for us as human beings to put into action. This quote says it all.
So, to answer the question that the title of this post poses: What do Sara Evans, The Beatles, and Jesus have in common? They all had a little to say about love. Now I wanna know what YOU have to say! What life experiences, verses, quotes, or Dr. Phil segments have moved you in your lives? Leave me a comment and let’s chat! This is where we learn from eachother…and that is what opens minds and leads to personal growth. So go on…leave a comment…don’t be shy. As Celine Dion says…”Let’s Talk About Love….”
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